This blog is meant to encourage people to believe that they can find a way to make their marriage work and even thrive, even during the tough times we all face.  For those considering divorce, I hope you might find hope here that you can find an alternative.

That being said, it is important to state that there are issues that may arise in which separation or divorce (while never anyone’s first choice) may be unavoidable in order for the individual to stay safe or healthy. Physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual abuse are all reasons to look very closely at the health of your marriage. The stories shared in this blog are not intended to encourage people to stay in a home where they are being abused. While it may be possible, with the help of counselors and a healthy support system of objective friends, to eventually make an abusive marriage healthy again, there may be a necessary time of separation before that can occur.

If you are being abused in your marriage, please find a safe refuge away from your spouse and seek counsel and help from people who can support you as you leave your marriage or help you and your spouse reconnect while you remain in a safe place.

Likewise, if you or your spouse struggles with addiction, there may be a time in which separation of some form is necessary to keep both people safe and healthy.